get in my fucking pants now

drxcos:

i hate when people r like “do you like them? oooh you’re blushing you do!!!” like, no you cold corndog im fucking blushing bc you’re embarrassing me and making me uncomfortable

(Source: drxcos, via tinypup)

I’m appreciative that young men [like the ones who created the “anti-rape” nail polish] want to curb sexual assault, but anything that puts the onus on women to “discreetly” keep from being raped misses the point. We should be trying to stop rape, not just individually avoid it.

If it were truly that simple, previous iterations of this same concept would have worked. Remember “anti-rape underwear”? Or the truly terrifying “Rapex” – a female condom that would insert tiny hooks into an assailant’s penis? You can’t really expect women to wear modern chastity belts or a real-life vagina dentata in order to be safe. That’s not trying to stop rape - it’s essentially arguing that some people getting raped is inevitable.

Even if a woman were to wear special nail polish or anti-rape underwear, or if she listens to common – but misplaced – advice about not getting drunk and always walking home in a group, all she’s supposedly ensuring is that she won’t be attacked. (And even then it’s not real security, because women who do all the “right” things get raped too) What about the girl at the same party who decided to have a few drinks that night? “So long as it isn’t me” isn’t an effective strategy to end rape.

My latest at the Guardian US, Why is it easier to invent anti-rape nail polish than find a way to stop rapists?  (via jessicavalenti)

Okay you know what, I think it’s very necessary and extremely important to educate everyone (males especially) about rape, and teach them from an early age to respect people (women especially), not rape them, etc., and I do think women, as of now, are the ones who are primarily shown ways on how to lower their risk of rape, when it should really be on the part of the attackers to not act upon their desires. I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND why we can’t celebrate a fantastic invention like this— yes, we have a long ways to go in encouraging an anti-rape culture, but don’t we get to have just a little time to rejoice for something that may prevent a lot of rapes/assaults?

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